Got to make a part 3
That other post was proving too long.....plus, I'm veering off track.
Anywho, shortly after the details of the affair were revealed, we were served with the papers of the foreclosure. Instead of thinking about my health, or our marriage, he was working to try and get that money together. Now, Jorge would normally make way over what we needed in one month, but with all of the coming home, missing work bc he was depressed......I also went to stay with him in Columbia. That was a cost of $200 a week for hotels for us. Plus, I had a lot of traveling back and forth from Greenville for Doctor appointments for the pregnancy, plus the cost of the appts, and I had appointments and costs for counselors. Which took all of our money.
We finally realized that the hotel was costing too much, we were too stressed. We talked and decided that sending me to Mexico, to stay with his mom, was a much better decision. He could work and make money, without having to worry 'bout where I was or what I was doing. Then he decided that he didn't trust me enough, but since he had already told his mom we were going, we still had to go . So all of the money he made, went towards the trip. We had paid our mortgage and got that settled, but by going to Mexico, that started putting us behind again. We made one month payment September (still behind a month), waited until the end of October(paid one more month), so that put us behind two.
That's where we are now.
The point was, that I realize that my affair, has caused our finances to go out of control. With the extra expenses of hotels, gas, doctor's appointments, days he missed bc he was too stressed, our trips to the beach and Mexico, my Dad coming.......
If I had had my head on straight, I would still have a job. That's why we got the house, 'cause we knew we could afford it with my income too. Not only that, we had health insurance. Now we don't have any health insurance and probably won't be able to get any. I was offered a job that paid more than $30,000, had all sorts of benefits, so on so forth. Jorge said he didn't trust me enough. I've been offered other jobs, but can't take them, bc of my affair. He said that he doesn't trust me to work out of the home. He can't trust me. I understand where he's coming from, but we're struggling horribly. He can't look past that to say, Okay, maybe for a little while, but set more rules. I don't want to put us in that position. I love my husband. But, we may end up with just the clothes on our back if we don't do something now.
One of my sister's has a birthday this weekend and we were supposed to go to Atlanta to celebrate it with her. We've known about it for over 2 months. We were going to spend all day Saturday with her and have her party on Sunday (she lives with her father). Then Jorge asked me last night, if we really had to go. This is an 11 year old. For her big sister to miss a special day, that's going to be rough. then he asked if we had to rent a hotel room Saturday night, well, where else are we going to stay? He said that he had promised his boss he was going to work on Saturday. I also asked him if we could leave the kids with mom and go dancing in Atlanta (which is where we met), he said, "No, we don't have enough money." I asked if that meant we wouldn't have enough for the trip, and he said yup. That was it.
I don't know what to do, thing, or say anymore. He's not wanting to see the other problems we're having right now. He won't let me work. I'm scared of where we're going to end up.
So, if I disappear all of a sudden, it's bc our internet has been cut off. I'm afraid to mention that on the board. I don't want to take my problems back there. I can probably count on less than one hand how many people read my blog (and they're only from the board), but, I just don't want my problems taking over the board again. I still haven't forgiven myself for all of the drama that I caused before.........
Anywho, shortly after the details of the affair were revealed, we were served with the papers of the foreclosure. Instead of thinking about my health, or our marriage, he was working to try and get that money together. Now, Jorge would normally make way over what we needed in one month, but with all of the coming home, missing work bc he was depressed......I also went to stay with him in Columbia. That was a cost of $200 a week for hotels for us. Plus, I had a lot of traveling back and forth from Greenville for Doctor appointments for the pregnancy, plus the cost of the appts, and I had appointments and costs for counselors. Which took all of our money.
We finally realized that the hotel was costing too much, we were too stressed. We talked and decided that sending me to Mexico, to stay with his mom, was a much better decision. He could work and make money, without having to worry 'bout where I was or what I was doing. Then he decided that he didn't trust me enough, but since he had already told his mom we were going, we still had to go . So all of the money he made, went towards the trip. We had paid our mortgage and got that settled, but by going to Mexico, that started putting us behind again. We made one month payment September (still behind a month), waited until the end of October(paid one more month), so that put us behind two.
That's where we are now.
The point was, that I realize that my affair, has caused our finances to go out of control. With the extra expenses of hotels, gas, doctor's appointments, days he missed bc he was too stressed, our trips to the beach and Mexico, my Dad coming.......
If I had had my head on straight, I would still have a job. That's why we got the house, 'cause we knew we could afford it with my income too. Not only that, we had health insurance. Now we don't have any health insurance and probably won't be able to get any. I was offered a job that paid more than $30,000, had all sorts of benefits, so on so forth. Jorge said he didn't trust me enough. I've been offered other jobs, but can't take them, bc of my affair. He said that he doesn't trust me to work out of the home. He can't trust me. I understand where he's coming from, but we're struggling horribly. He can't look past that to say, Okay, maybe for a little while, but set more rules. I don't want to put us in that position. I love my husband. But, we may end up with just the clothes on our back if we don't do something now.
One of my sister's has a birthday this weekend and we were supposed to go to Atlanta to celebrate it with her. We've known about it for over 2 months. We were going to spend all day Saturday with her and have her party on Sunday (she lives with her father). Then Jorge asked me last night, if we really had to go. This is an 11 year old. For her big sister to miss a special day, that's going to be rough. then he asked if we had to rent a hotel room Saturday night, well, where else are we going to stay? He said that he had promised his boss he was going to work on Saturday. I also asked him if we could leave the kids with mom and go dancing in Atlanta (which is where we met), he said, "No, we don't have enough money." I asked if that meant we wouldn't have enough for the trip, and he said yup. That was it.
I don't know what to do, thing, or say anymore. He's not wanting to see the other problems we're having right now. He won't let me work. I'm scared of where we're going to end up.
So, if I disappear all of a sudden, it's bc our internet has been cut off. I'm afraid to mention that on the board. I don't want to take my problems back there. I can probably count on less than one hand how many people read my blog (and they're only from the board), but, I just don't want my problems taking over the board again. I still haven't forgiven myself for all of the drama that I caused before.........
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